Step 1 – Unmanageable—Question

Unmanageable:  difficult or impossible to control, use or manipulate

Step 1: We admitted that we were powerless over our addiction(s) and compulsive behavior, that our lives had become unmanageable.

Welcome back folks.  One of our followers sent us a question concerning our last post so we are going to spend some time on it here.  We do thank this follower for submitting their question and invite you to send us your questions and comments.

Q: “So, are you saying that I have to lose everything in order to recover?”

While this is an excellent and valid question, it isn’t easily answered.  A proper answer will be lengthy and in two parts.

First, we don’t actually lose anything to our addiction or in our addictive state…we give it up and/or away.  We constantly hear people, especially the newcomer, say “I lost my license” or “I lost my house” or “I lost my spouse/significant other” or “I lost my job”, etc.  But in reality, we haven’t lost anything.  We generally know where these things are.

If we were busted for driving while under the influence and our license was taken away, we didn’t lose them.  We know where they are…with the police or courts-right.  If we were evicted from our dwelling, it isn’t lost is it?  If we were fired or asked to resign from our employment, our position isn’t lost, we just no longer fill it.  If our spouse/significant other leaves/divorces us, we still know where they are, we just aren’t with them.  If our vehicle was impounded or repossessed, it isn’t actually lost, it’s in the impound lot or with the finance company/bank.  We just don’t have it anymore.  If our health has diminished due to our using, we know where it went-right?

So, truthfully, we don’t lose people, places, things, etc. to our addiction.  In essence, the things that we claim to have lost to our addiction aren’t lost at all.  We, in our addictive state, have just given them up and/or away.

Now that we have clarified that, we will re-examine the question and finish with our answer next time.

Until then ……. be sure to tell a friend about us.

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Remember:  “It is what it is and “it ain’t nothing but a thing!”