Living In The Lie

Faith: confidence or trust in a person or thing

Okay folks, so far we have tried to break up some hardened ground here.  In our discussions about Hope and Believe we have tried to encourage you and emphasize that;

    No matter what your circumstances or situations are, there is Hope.

    If you Believe it and work for it, you can achieve recovery.

   You have worth and you are important.

 Hopefully, our discussions thus far have softened the soil of your heart and mind and you are now ready for the next phase of this process.

Now that the soil has been broken, it’s time to shovel away the dirt and prepare the ground to lay a solid foundation for your recovery. From now on, the discussions will be a little more intrusive and will require you to “get real”.  

Think about your current situation.  Do you know or at least think that you have a problem and are ready to get help…  If so, then call, text or e-mail me now.  Do not put if off.  This is huge.

However, if you do not feel or know that you have a problem or you are not ready to accept it (denial) then continue reading.

We will define Denial as: A person's refusal to admit or accept that he or she has an addiction problem.  Denial is one of the symptoms of the illness of addiction. It is this symptom that makes recovery so difficult and must be dealt with before recovery can take place.

Addiction is an illness which convinces you that you do not have a problem.

Before confessing that we had a problem, most of us used very similar denial strategies to prove that we didn’t have a problem.  Statements like, “We don’t have a problem or that we can stop or quit anytime we want to.”  We would blame our actions on others or on our childhood issues.  We might even give into the idea that this is just the way we are, “I can’t change” or “I just can’t help myself.”  And the list goes on and on.

For those of us with a drinking problem, we tried the beer only, never drinking alone, drinking only at a designated time, etc. methods.

For those of us with a drug problem we tried deleting our dealer’s number from our phone, never going into that neighborhood, only buying on Sunday, etc.

But regardless of our excuses and varied attempts, the results were always the same.  Yet we still deny that we have a problem.

The thing is, denial blocks us from the path to recovery.  And to deny the truth is to live in a lie.  If the truth sets us free, then the lie keeps us in bondage.  Recovery is to live in the Truth. Denial is to live in the Lie.

Until we get denial under our foot, we cannot recover.

Join us next time as we continue our discussion on Denial.

Until then …….. be sure to tell a friend about us.

Thanks for visiting us – come back soon.

Remember:  “It is what it is and “it ain’t nothing but a thing!”